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June 26, 2014 by Donna Thornton Leave a Comment

EFT and NLP for a Healthier Body and Mind

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) are completely different types of therapies and both are incredibly effective in their own right. Many people these days have come to realize that together, EFT and NLP provide greater transformational results.

About NLP

NLP, which started in the 1970s, is a powerful tool for personal change that uses subjective experience to shape and create a desired reality. NLP practitioners use the processes of thought and language to help change negative or unhelpful behavior and improve existing skills. The therapy provides focus and direction to enhance states of well-being. Thus, you feel good not by chance, but by choice.

NLP is based on the principle that your reality is the result of how you imagine yourself to be. If you think of yourself as miserable loser, your life will become miserable. By providing a brighter self-image, you can improve your self-esteem and become happier and more successful. NLP works by interrupting unhealthy or unhelpful behavior and thinking, and replacing them with positive thoughts and actions to help you get ahead in life.

Purposeful use of language – usually in a conversational manner – helps anchor positive feelings so you can easily access them and create positive changes in the way you think and act.

About EFT

EFT is a type of energy therapy that involves tapping on acupressure or meridian points in the body while you talk, or think about issues and problems you want to resolve. EFT has its roots in acupuncture, the ancient Chinese healing method. Acupuncture is based on the belief that energy flows throughout the body in meridians or “streams.” Blockages or disruptions in energy flow cause illness or negative feelings.

In EFT, tapping on specific points while talking restores balance and free flow of energy. This releases negative feelings and physical tensions often within minutes.

EFT and NLP for Healing

Combining EFT and NFT techniques is extremely effective in resolving many issues such as phobias, post traumatic stress disorders, migraines, and overweight problems. NLP has been used for decades to treat trauma and phobias. More recently, EFT was added to the arsenal of treatment methods for mental, physical and emotional issues.

EFT harnesses body and mind (tapping combined with purposeful use of language) to release energy blocks and emotions that may be holding you back. Language is used in a specific way in doing so practitioners and EFT coaches recommend a “formula” or “pattern” of phrases or sentences to say while you tap. When done the right way, healing often takes place very quickly.

NLP language patterns can be used with EFT techniques to enhance the healing process. NLP also helps uncover underlying issues responsible for emotional and mental problems. It’s a very powerful tool that uses thought and language process to help you recognize and identify the behaviors and beliefs that can lead to healing and success.

While many issues can be resolved using one technique or the other, a growing number of people now believe that using EFT with NLP is more effective and provides quicker results. Traumas and phobias respond well to both techniques.

EFT is particularly good at separating the negative emotions from the stimulus or memory thereby making it effective for the treatment of fears and phobias. NLP is also good at identifying specific issues. The reason why both work well together is because NLP helps the person peel off the layers of issues responsible for the problem, stress, or phobia while EFT helps neutralize and eliminate the unwanted emotional response.

Conclusion

NLP techniques can be used to expedite the EFT session and EFT can be used to enhance NLP techniques. Using NLP in conjunction with EFT resolves negative issues more quickly and reinforces general health and well-being.

May 19, 2014 by Donna Thornton Leave a Comment

Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone

Living within the confines of routine life results in feelings of being uncertain, frustrated, and low, largely because of the monotony that’s involved. There’s also a big sense of depression owing to the fact that you can’t clearly see any opportunities or possibilities of advancement or betterment of your current state. If such chances do come your way, you’re hesitant to pursue them because you become doubtful that they’ll work to your advantage. Such thoughts make way for several other people that are of no productive consequence. Thoughts that life would have been better off if you were born into a rich family, or if you had attended a better school, do nothing to remedy your situation.

There’s a lack of self-belief and as a consequence when you stop asserting yourself – you give yourself up to fate and begin allowing things to just happen for you. Such a life is spent seeking the approval of peers; there’s no personal initiative to step outside the little circle of thought and venturing to the unexplored. For these reasons, your life becomes full of anxiety, a passive and defensive attitude, doubt, fear, and diminished self-esteem. Clearly, this isn’t a lifestyle you will enjoy.

Break out of your Comfort Zone. Positive thought affirmations are ideal for individuals who wish to step out of their zones of comfort. They work by asserting a faith and optimism in the self. Self-belief is created and this inspires individuals to create changes that they wish to see in their lives. This is strictly through self-control and effort. Naturally, the first step has to be the erasure of your negative inner talk, which has a big effect in shaping the thoughts, which confine you to the small circle that’s your comfort zone.

Stepping out into the Positive

Positive affirmations will start a new thought process that will create new life. You’ll be able to brush off the doubts and fears that confine you to self-inflicted limitations. Positive affirmations will enable you to visualize the outcomes that you want to manifest in your life.

As you create your affirmations ensure that they are positive. Let the affirmations convince you. Let them be brief but emotionally and mentally intense. They must be in the first person because they’re only meant for you. With this said and done, start repeating the affirmations fervently. Using visualization and creating mental images of success will serve you well. The positive affirmations are for the purpose of reprogramming the subconscious. Repeating the affirmations every day is required if the reprogramming is to work. Ensure that you’re calm and collected when you’re doing this. If this proves impossible, invest in a gadget that can repeat the affirmations in your sleep. This has proved to be the most effective technique by far. Realize that affirmations complement your efforts. Half-hearted efforts to get out of your comfort zone will not pay off. The effort has to be wholehearted.

Creating a time frame

There’s a difference between creating in your own universe and creating in the physical world. When you create inside yourself there’s no time involved – your awareness is timeless! For instance, if you would like to change your attitude toward your boss, you do not need to set a time frame. You are able to merely create the intention: “I appreciate my boss,” or, “I value my boss’s viewpoints and beliefs”. It will work instantly if there’s no other belief or intention in its way.
When you deal with the physical world, setting a time frame becomes important. The physical world works within time and space. If you build a new house, first you have a plan, and then you move dirt, assemble wood, install plumbing and move furniture until the house is complete. It takes time and effort.

So if you make your intention but you leave out the time frame – your intention becomes doubtful. For instance: “I’m working in my dream job”. Well, you’d probably say right away: “I am not!” It sounds more like an affirmation than an intention. Include the time frame, and this example turns into: “I’m working in my dream job, six months from now”.

Pay attention to any reactions you have when you formulate your intention. Your mind may interfere and tell you: “No way, I’ll never get this,” or “this is impossible”. If you encounter these instant judgments, formulate your intentions differently, so that they feel more do-able.

Occasionally you may want to break a big intention into smaller pieces. For instance: “In two weeks I am a millionaire”, is an intention that may not work for most Individuals. Nonetheless, an intention like: “each day I will have more money to spend”, may get you there sooner than you think.

April 28, 2014 by Donna Thornton Leave a Comment

A Great Attitude | Inspirational Quotes and Sayings

“A great attitude does much more than turn on the lights in our worlds; it seems to magically connect us to all sorts of serendipitous opportunities that were somehow absent before we changed.” – Earl Nightengale

Oh boy. Do I need to hear this one! You know? Some days it really is about all I can do to muster a good attitude. But this inspirational quote really reminds me how important not just a “good” attitude is, but actually how vital a “great” attitude is to accomplishing the things I want to accomplish in life and to bring in the resources I need to do that!

Even though I need a reminder of this from time to time, as I’m sure we all do, what I’ve noticed in my life is that what Mr. Nightengale says is 100% true! Things happen… resources appear, connections get made, truly serendipitous opportunities appear that weren’t there before… all because of my attitude!

When I have a bad attitude, when I’m feeling down or upset about things, it seems that everything is harder. The road seems rockier, things don’t run as smoothly, I often end up feeling like nothing is going right.

If I stop and think about it, if I make a conscious decision to turn my attitude around, suddenly the road smooths out… things start working better and YES… opportunities, connections and resources appear, seemingly out of nowhere.

My guess is that many of those things were there already, and I just couldn’t see them because my bad attitude got in my way. Maybe another thing that could be is that when I shift my attitude, my light shines a little bit brighter and attracts more light my way. I think probably both of those things are true. Whatever the case, I do know that a GREAT attitude can make all the difference in the way my (and probably those around me) day, and life goes.

Sometimes we just need to stop and make a decision to actually turn our attitude around. That’s why I like this inspirational quote by Earl Nightengale. It is a great reminder to do that… especially when I’m having a not so perfect day!

April 26, 2014 by Donna Thornton Leave a Comment

Find Your Unique Strengths, Gifts, and Talents

Do not waste your time chasing somebody else’s dream or goal or anything that is not given to you that you can’t claim first as your own. Use the talents you came in with or the ones you developed along the way.

You may become very good at something but you’ll never find true, lasting happiness with it if you cannot own it completely. You’ll always have to compensate with something else so as not to feel the void in your life – a void that is only filled by your own inherent strengths and talents.

If you do not know your talents and strengths, make getting to know them your major project in life. Use any tools you feel comfortable with. Try to find a way to dig deeper into yourself. This is your life – and you are worth it!

Recognize your unique blend of talents and gifts is the first step in discovering who you truly are. Think of your childhood dreams for clues about your early conditioning. Ask your friends to help you identify your gifts. Keep a journal of questions and answers and refer to it often as a way of focusing on the specific characteristics of yourself and the dreams you hold dear. Learn to use any tool that helps you find a way to dig deeper into yourself.

Finding The Courage to Step Out of Normal

If you’ve found your talents and strengths, you know you’re unique. It gives you confidence and a sense of stability. That does not mean that you go around telling individuals how different you are. It’s just a recognition of what you brought into this lifetime. Make a commitment to follow these gifts and talents; let them guide you. Do not let anyone tell you what you should do. Do not let anyone tell you that you’re not good enough to fulfill your dreams. Identify as much as possible with your dreams, as they’re the surest guides in your life. They’ll show you where to go. There’s no guarantee at all that everything will be fine and easy when you follow your dreams. It could be the opposite.

You may find yourself alone in the world with the feeling that everybody else is doing the right thing but you. Your gifts, talents and strengths are your ultimate potential, but they can also be your pitfalls. You’ll need to cultivate them over time. In the beginning, they are also your weaknesses and you’ll be tested by them. The more you withstand them, the stronger they grow inside you, until they become your life force.

Discovering your own unique blend of dreams and personal talents helps break loose layers of conditioning and initiates deep changes in your life. Realize that all change, whether positive or negative, is necessary and will in the end support you in ways that sustains your growth. Inner understanding is infinitely more significant than external accumulation. Be nonjudgmental – don’t impose artificial standards on yourself or on others.

Attention – The Infinite Source of Your Potential

Attention is probably the most crucial gift you possess. It’s the act of taking possession by the mind, in clear and vivid form, of one of several simultaneously possible objects or trains of thought. It implies withdrawal from some things in order to deal effectively with other people. Our very perception of reality is tied closely to where we focus our attention. Only what we pay attention to seems real to us, where as whatever we ignore – no matter how important it may be – seems to fade into insignificance.

Each of us chooses, by our way of attending to things, the universe we inhabit and the people we encounter. But for most of us, this “choice” is unconscious, so it is not really a choice at all. When we think about who we are, we cannot possibly remember all the things we have experienced, all the behaviors and qualities we have exhibited. What comes to mind when we ask, “Who am I?” Those things consist of what we have been paying attention to over the years. The same goes for our impressions of others. The reality that appears to us is not so much what’s out there; as it’s those aspects of the world we have focused on.

What we look at may not be what we attend to. It’s possible to look in one direction but actually notice changes in another direction. Overt attention is the act of directing our eyes or ears towards a stimulus source. Covert attention is the act of mentally focusing on a particular stimulus. Basically, you are able to direct your attention towards the outside world or towards the world within. You are able to observe – attend to – your thoughts!

Mastering and controlling your attention gives you the freedom to choose what happens in your life. There are numerous things happening at the same time all over the world, however, as long as your attention isn’t directed to any of it – nothing really happens for you.

This is very important to understand. The more you are able to control your attention the more you attract only the things in your life that you really want. If you don’t pay attention to the crime scene on your television, it doesn’t create this reality for you. If you do not pay attention to negative things in your life, it won’t create that reality.

This does not mean you should ignore the parts of the world that don’t produce peace and happiness for you; it merely means not to give them too much attention. Do not get absorbed in them – decide when enough is enough and move on to something you want your attention to be focused on, for instance, the important goals and dreams of your life. Life isn’t what you see on TV nor what you hear and read in the news!